What am i doing here and wheres your pride?

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Ok two questions! firstly what am i doing here? well i truely am begining to wonder .
I get messages from people , some realy nice ones some just rude and blunt and some just plain stupid. The problem is the nice ones come far away from where i live so they are nice but i am not looking for a long distance relationship they are realy a bit pointless! friends yes but nothing is going to happen so i am thinking that the people who are close to where i live are just timewasters unless you want to 'prove me wrong'.

Second question! wheres your pride? . It is true there are a few beautiful girls on here 'but' 90% of pictures are old or faked with photoshop or taken useing a mirror and distorted in other ways with smoke effect blur ect i have even seen pics of genetic females (with heads cut off) from magazines and they are pretending to be TS/TG so tell me whats the point in that? now i am asking why are you here? if you get a date the other person is going to get a shock when they see you look nothing like you pretend to be .

This is a dating site so if you are looking for a date then at least let the other person see the 'real you' as for the men! well again there are some nice looking guys but i would say 60% of profiles are without a picture at-all or heads cut off so a bit more effort than the girls, theres not so much of the smoke ect just effortless profiles and pointless dribble.

I will always be the first to admit i am nothing special to look at but at least you can see the 'real me' so i am not ashamed to show my ugly mug so why can't you where the hell is your pride? stop faking it save that for the bedroom.

I will most likely leave this site soon as i cannot see me finding a 'real person' and as i live my life full time female i do get to meet people who are interested in me but they lie to me , its easy to trip them up with just a few questions and the looks on their faces , i play with them like toys and then disgard them , when i say i play with them i mean wind them up just like they are attempting to do with me , i will arange a date and not bother turning up because as far as i am concerned they should be with thier wives or partners not me.
I am going to end this here as i have things to do so unless i get a reason to stay i will just one day be gone , as Tommy Cooper would say 'just like that'.

All the best to all Julia.

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Deleted as I am leaving the site.

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`NEVER GIVE UP AND NEVER SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS. THE MIRACLE
IS THERE.

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`Nikki! i am asking you to stay here , i know this place is full of wasters and fakes but if genuine people like you leave then this site will just be morons.

I too am sick of the men and there total lack of understanding and respect of TGs/TSs thinking we are some kind of desperate play things! And as for the so called females i have never in my life seen such a load people so ashamed to show thier real selves , the faked images those pathetic men druel over in there land of make believe are just that "fake" i very rarely see a photo that has not been tampered with in some way wether it be blured/taken in a mirror/smoked and headless bodies and so on they must be so ashamed of themselves not to be able to just upload an untampered with picture and the men to should be ashamed of themselves for incouraging them .

Maybe one day things will change and the men will use the part between thier ears first rather than the part 3 feet from the ground and figure out they are just making things worse by even just looking at those fakes .
Nikki you are a real person so please do not go as i am in a minority here because i am real too , think about it please.
Take care Julia .

PS if a certain man with a user name starting with the letter P and ending with N joins in this then prepare to be taken down in public! you make me sick! it says above use the part between your ears "work it out" i thought you were a friend 'I got you wrong and i always admit my mistakes' that is why i am ignoring you so go back to your fakes i hope you are happy together in fantasy land.

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`Hi Julia,

I will stay around for a little bit longer to see how things go. I have reduced the info on my profile a lot, because I am fed up of the morons who kept contacting me. As much as I would love to find a man on here, I know it will never happen, so I don't want to give them anything to get excited about as it were by posting information and photos of myself.

I will write to you again soon, but for now, I am going to go and have an early night in bed, as I have had a long day and I just need some sleep.

Talk to you soon

Nikki
x

[sunbear85]

`I do see your point in people being true to themselves and honest to the people they are trying to attract. However, going on a rant that makes others leave because oh what you say is just wrong. It seems like everytime I go through a thread you're there going on a rampage because people aren't doing exactly what you're doing (ie posting that people who don't get GRS aren't real Ts). I'm not saying you don't have a right to and not the other your opinion but you have no right to s--- on how anyone views themselves calling them a fake. You've gone through a lot and I admire your courage and the fact that you want to help others but it seems like you're doing the opposite. You are making people leave and making it even harder for people to open up if anything. How about lifting people up and encouraging people with kind words? For one who's been judged all her life and hated it, you seem to do a lot of it now.

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`Don't you dare say say that i have made others leave this site! i have asked people to stay.

I have rid this place of 2 members and one was a vindictive transphobic and the other was a person useing a picture of a genetic female from a magazine ad "thats deception".

THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE A DATING SITE! Now you tell me if people cannot be honest from the start then what future is there going to be? you cannot base any relationship on lies it will just fail so uploading images of someone you are not is just defeating the object of what this site is supposed to be.

There are a few people on here who dislike me and the reason for that is because i speak my mind and tell the truth and as they say the truth hurts and i am guessing you have been asked to post here by one of those people.

I have been on various websites like this over the past 6 years and i am still seeing the same old images as i was 6 years ago! now if i had a picture of how i looked 6 years ago you would see a very different person because i have lost over 70 pounds in body wieght and spent a fortune on hair removal and i know some cannot afford that but it cost me nothing to lose the wieght.

Now i would like you to tell me if you arranged a date on here with who you thought was either an average tg/ts or a beautiful tg/ts and a big fat hairy man turned up what would you do? run i guess.

I will still wish you all the best of luck but you have more chance of getting struck by lightning than getting a date if you do not show yourself and even if you do show yourself you are more likely to be hit by a truck on thursday morning .

I have heard every excuse there is over the years and the most common one is "my friends or family may see me" if thats the case then ask yourself why would your friends and family be looking on here? not looking for a new TV! that comes under electrical.

Julia.

[sunbear85]

`Range don't make people want to stay or make them more comfortable with being here in my opinion. Getting rid of phonies is great and I hope you keep getting rid of people who hate others because they aren't what they find acceptable. I don't mind people touching up a photo as long as it's to remove small flaws and not a major misrepresentation of who they really are. If you read the first couple of sentences I even agree with your original point. My problem is with the way you presented your argument. I understand your frustration since I keep sending honest requests for a chance to talk online and possibly meet someone and it's usually either no answer or a four word one with no real dialogue being started to move towards what this site is meant for. However I'll keep trying because I feel that eventually my time spent hunting will be more rewarding in the end. Do I wish it was easier? Yes, but there will always be stuff like this going on. Just how the internet is and no amount of ranting will get it to stop no matter where you go for dating online. As far as speaking for other people that's not at all true. I am capable of speaking my own thoughts and if anyone ever did tell me to do that, I'd say no. I'd encourage them to say what they feel. Especially when there is no real physical threat and only a battle of words. If a big man instead of a beautiful ts I'd run for fear of a set up to get robbed. The friends and family thing is a matter of being comfortable with yourself and not giving a damn when people judge something they don't understand. It's hard to just finally say accept me or go, especially when it comes to family. I don't agree with that line of thought since love is meant to be unconditional why care if they reject who you are. I'll keep trying to find a date on here (with my real pic), because I've already been run over by a truck, so I think the odds are in my favor now. :p. In the end it's not the point you were trying to make that I disagreed with, just the way it was said. Grats on the loss of weight. It's such a pain in the --- to do. You beat me by 15 pounds but I'm leaning towards calling it a tie since I think medical marijuana kept me from tying it up. :D

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`Firstly i am going to welcome you to this site and secondly if you sent me an email you would get a very long response , i never ignore emails and there are many people on this site who could tell you i can talk for England and if it was a sport i would most likely come first.

As i said before there are a few people on this site who do not like me and thats up to them this is a big site with a lot of members so just as in any community there are always a few again'st one person.

I agree with you about touching up a photo (a little bit) although all i do with mine is crop resize and upload but it realy is going way to far useing images that are years old and as i have said before a photo taken useing a mirror gives a false image as i would even look good if i used that method.

This being a dating site any person who made contact with some of the people on this place and then arranged a date should at the very least expect that person to look close to the image they displayed on a profile.If you look on the home page and click on who's popular you will see 32 people then click on female only you will see at any one time at the very least 22 fakes and you will also see some girls who look like they belong on the front cover of Vogue "they do not want a date" you can join another 6 sites and you will see the same ones! they site hop and on each site they just try and do mostly dominate top chick/whos popular/top babe/top anything it does not matter to them as long as they are top thats why last week before you joined i played with the system and moved them and as i told the site controlers i could have moved the whole lot into the ether if i wished to and placed whoever i wanted there and i told the site controlers i could have put myself number 1 every day if i so wished but i am not here to be miss popular or decieve people i joined this site to meet people (well that was the idea) .

My inbox today.

( 1 )I still realy want you to suck my cock!.
( 2 )Hi i am looking at your pictures and having a wank!.
( 3 ) I want to --- on your face!
( 4 ) A normal personal email.

So the top 3 gives you an idea of the idiots on this place , none of those would come up to me on the street and say those things to my face.

If you think any post i have made on this site is wrong then look deeper into the reason i made it! i was either prevoked or it is just the plain and simple truth.

All the best Julia. PS nice to see you posted a pic.

[sunbear85]

`I was just a little slow in posting it is all. We just got a different style of doing things is all. I'm glad you e-mailed me and thank you for the apology and I'm sorry if anything I said was offensive.